Why Can't We Be Friends?
As we get older and we look around at our circle, we realize that our circle is diminishing. Fret not dear friend, it is for good reasons I promise. As you grow, naturally you surround yourself with like-minded people. Do you remember the quote “Iron sharpens iron?” Well it is true. I am all about seeing people lift each other up, getting support from each other, and as important, checking you when necessary.
Seeing people lift each other up….
Don’t you want to be happy for other people and rejoice in their successes? What happens when you are doing well and you can’t share your successes with your “friends”? That’s not fun, is it? You want people who can lift you up in the same way that you are able to do for them. If they don’t inspire you then why are you sulking over your friendship? Child, please; there are too many other successful people across the way who need to link up with you. Insert networking event here and here right now.
Getting support from each other…
You know what suuuuuucks? What sucks is when you continuously support someone else’s life decisions and the moment you shed a tear or show a bit of worry in your eyes, they are nowhere to be found. AND that’s fine, they can go. You need people who share the responsibility of the actual duties of a friend. Cue “Lean on Me.” Recite those words and realize that it goes both ways.
Checking you when necessary…
Now my friend, I want you to know that there is a difference between someone checking you and someone straight up and down hating on you. Hate is whack, just like crack. If your friend is going to check you on something it shouldn’t happen in front of other people (that’s nothing but hate and embarrassment) and it shouldn’t involve yelling (that is not a solid form of communication). If they can’t get down with the get down and check you because they genuinely care about your well-being then they can NOT check you and go be friends with someone that they like. You will get over this loss. I promise.
Friendships can be a good thing when everyone is on the same page. People are not the same, I get that, but friendships are about compromise. Proper communication, caring about someone, understanding what loyalty means in adult life (not play play high school and college stuff), and knowing how to have fun with and be serious with that person is a real friendship. So when people start dropping like flies (such a weird thing to say), it’s fine. Eventually everything will come full circle and you will realize that life is sooooooo much better without haters but with motivators.
love + light