When I write for fullofsage I don't share what I would think to be too personal but every now and then, I think it's important to share with others what is going on in my head because they may need to know that they are not the only ones going through what they are going through and thinking those thoughts.
I was talking to a lady today and randomly we started speaking about cleavage. I was wearing a dress that is cut really low but I wore a lace shirt over it because I am not that into cleavage. I never really have been into showing any part of my chest unless I am on the beach. She said she understood where I was coming from but because her boobs are larger than mine, she has ultimately decided to embrace cleavage.
Not me. Not yet. I'm not ready.
Then we started talking about paying for a good bra and how wearing a good bra makes you feel more confident about your boobs. Funny how something material can make you feel more comfortable with your own body.
This conversation got me thinking about body confidence. Its so intriguing to me that even the women who have been dubbed the most beautiful women in the world are self conscious about some parts of their body. Then I started thinking about whether or not there have been other parts of my body that I was not comfortable with in the past and I came up with a list:
Nose too big
Feet too big
Head too big
Hair too thick
Skin too sensitive
Lips too big
Sweat too much when working out
Teeth not white enough
Hair not long enough
Can't seem to get abs
I realized that in the past I was being absolutely ridiculous by comparing myself to what society has dubbed as being "normal". No one is perfect. No one is the perfect mold. I realized that I am beautiful and every part of me adds to my beauty. I am not sure when the turning point was in my life but I do remember being very insecure. Sometimes, I say to myself that I wish something about my body would change, but then I quickly remind myself that I'm good.
What has been really important for me to remember is that I am me. I was made to be me. There is no one else like me. I don't need to change anything about me. I accept me as I am.
So if you're feeling a little down about your body just remember that the only person that you need to compare yourself to is you. It's okay to have body conscious things pop into your head. It's normal and we all do it. However, at the end of the day, try not to shame yourself but to uplift yourself. Practice makes perfect; the more you look into the mirror and lift yourself up, the more you will start to love yourself for you.