When Was the Last Time You Saw Yourself?
I think my take on Kendrick Lamar’s ode to binge drinking is a pretty accurate representation of most of our days.
We work (or waste) long hours, overdose on impersonal digital interaction and find ourselves leading mediocre, maxed out lives with still more to do, more people to see and less time to do it all in.
So, please do us both a favor.
Stop where you are and have a seat.
What I'm about to ask you to do will only take minutes. And the world will keep turning in the meantime. I promise.
Now, pay all your attention to this present moment, focusing on how the seated position feels and on your breath.
Writing your answers down or typing them into a notepad on your phone, answer these questions from your heart:
1. How do you feel right now?
2. Is it the way you want to feel?
3. What would make the difference between how you feel and how you want to feel?
4. Are all the things you're doing with your time lately contributing to closing this gap?
If your answer to the last question is “no”, then I recommend to prioritize some time to see yourself for who and where you really are right now.
As a matter of fact, this time should be pretty high up on your task list.
Because nothing else you're doing matters if the sum of your days aren't adding up to the life you want to be living. So, it's not only worthwhile to make a date with yourself to evaluate how you can live your best life; it's necessary.
To get a real feel for what's going on, it's time to disconnect from constant stimulus and non-stop to do lists. Time to evaluate your priorities and consider your values. Time to breathe. Time to be still. Time to be quiet. Time to feel.
Time to just be.
Consider going away for a weekend or experiencing a half day silent retreat (meditation centers in your community likely host them). Even some time not far from home in an Airbnb (away from all your distractions) could be very beneficial.
You deserve this time. You deserve this attention. Set it aside for yourself…no one else will.
My Best To You,